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Experimenting With Your Style to Get Compliment [0:00:00]
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Antonio: All right, gentlemen.
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Today, we’re going to talk about how to experiment with your style to get compliments.
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Ryan, are you ready?
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Ryan: I’m ready.
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Antonio: All right, guys.
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Let’s get into it.
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[Music] Now, Ryan has an amazing channel which I’ll link to in the description called Show
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Her Off and within a short time you have become like a country western dancing king.
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I mean anytime we go to a place, this guy goes out in country western dance he is recognized
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and one of the reasons is is because he’s very recognizable.
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You actually when you see this guy, you remember him.
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He’s got a distinctive style.
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And that’s what we’re going to be talking about today, how did he put this together,
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how did he experiment with his style, so when he walks into a place he’s getting compliments
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whether people recognize him or not because he’s got that distinctive look.
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Ryan: So, tip number one when you’re experimenting with your style and this is what I’ve done
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is getting inspiration from movie, TV, or book characters that resonate with you.
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Antonio: What are some examples of things that you’ve pulled from source movies?
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Ryan: Yeah.
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So, like I oftentimes will wear if it’s a nice formal event like the Menfluential
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Conference.
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Antonio: Yeah.
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Ryan: I’ll – instead of a suit…
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Antonio: Full suit.
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No.
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Yeah.
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Ryan: You know I mean if, again, in the right setting maybe I would wear a full suit.
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That would be another thing I need to experiment.
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But, right now what I’ve experimented with and found that I like is vest.
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Antonio: Yeah.
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And vests look good because if you can’t tell, Ryan takes care of his body.
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He has a whole another channel you can check out talking about fitness, but you like to
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wear, you know, vest because they make your arms look, you know, just really they show
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off…
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Ryan: Yeah.
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They fit well with my body in there.
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It’s nice it’s kind of that nice formal layer without being too formal for my personality,
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again, matching me.
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And this is something, so to the point of the tip like I got inspired to try this by
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watching the show Hell on Wheels with Anson Mount like he wore vest.
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Now, it’s an old it’s a western leather vest, with…
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Antonio: Yeah.
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Ryan: A pocket watch and stuff and I had that at one point too, but that was something that
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I started trying and that leads me to tip number two which is like when you try things,
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try it more than once and like be comfortable with experimenting.
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Like when I initially started wearing vest, I’d found some, you know, online and stuff
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and I just didn’t like them, I didn’t – they were like leather vest and they just
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didn’t…
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Antonio: No, and you…
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Ryan: Fit well with me.
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Antonio: So, you tried off vests that didn’t work necessarily.
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You had the idea of where you wanted to go.
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Ryan: Right.
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Antonio: But, you started to try it and you failed a few times, but you also succeeded.
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Ryan: Yeah, because I learn.
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Antonio: And you focus on those wins.
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Ryan: Right.
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Antonio: And then, you stepped it up I think you went to Suit Supply.
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Ryan: Yes.
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Antonio: You found a number of their vests.
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Ryan: Yes.
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Antonio: Let me actually show one of the vests that you’ve got here.
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Ryan: Yeah.
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All right, I just got it out of my suitcase, so it’s a little wrinkly.
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But, this is like one of the vests I like and I found it works well because I’m – another
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thing that I experimented is with a lot of color.
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Antonio: Yeah.
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Ryan: Because for me, again, see I wouldn’t say, oh, well, you have to experiment with
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color, but for me my personality, l like wearing color not tons of color crazy all the time
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because somebody told me that only wear one piece of…
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Antonio: Yeah.
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Like you don’t want to be – you don’t want to have too much attention.
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Now, let’s bring in this shirt here.
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Ryan: Yeah.
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Antonio: This shirt is a good example of color.
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Ryan: Yeah.
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Antonio: He was wearing this the other day and you – it was very distinctive.
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Obviously, this isn’t a color – purple, the color of kings.
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But we also see lavender a lighter color and it’s just it’s a unique design and the
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color stands out.
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And it looks great on you with your build.
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Ryan: Yeah.
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It fit well.
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Antonio: Yeah.
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Ryan: Yeah.
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Antonio: So, focus on the fit.
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You brought in some color and he’s having fun.
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Again, he’s experimenting.
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It’s not always going to work, you’re going to have certain pieces you’re going
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to buy and, yeah, these aren’t going to work out too well.
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But, guys, you will occasionally find winners.
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Also, I think that you need to practice wearing this clothing to build up that confidence.
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Ryan: The third and final tip is if you are trying something, well, it’s two-part.
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Number one, if you are trying something new and want to experiment, don’t change five
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million things like I’m a big believer in one – focus on one thing at a time and get
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that doubt and…
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Antonio: So, don’t go from t-shirt and jeans to a three-piece suit with, you know, with,
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you know.
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Ryan: Right.
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That’s like a total overhaul.
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And what this is about is just experimenting.
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Once you kind of have you base of style, then you can start adding in some style which reflect
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and tell the story of your personality more and who you are.
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Number two, I found it’s helpful to experiment in an area that you’re comfortable with.
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So, for example if you go out to particular bar all the time or whatever scene you go
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all the time, if you experiment in that area or arena you know the environment you’re
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comfortable there, you know for the most part the people there, so the only variable that
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really change is that piece of clothing for you.
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Antonio: Okay.
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And I tell guys a lot of times, you know, practice wearing around things you’re familiar
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with just around your own home.
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You can simply wear for your family in and around there.
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Yes, I know that sounds like, well, really is that practicing?
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Yes, it is.
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And you get used to wearing it.
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Now, we’re going to bring a picture really quick of your pants.
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And you love these olive green pants which really stand out in a sea of blue jeans and
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mostly blue jeans that don’t even fit well, these fit you very well.
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Ryan: Right.
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[0:04:59] Antonio: And you also have a red pair which
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when you wear that to the bar…
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Ryan: Yeah.
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Antonio: And, yes, some people are going to say, oh, wow, I mean that’s just standing
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out.
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But, a lot of women especially when you’re in shape, they’re like that looks good.
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Ryan: Yes.
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These are, you know, just flat gray pants, but the reason I’m all about lean wardrobe.
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So, like this really pops because now the colors…
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Antonio: This is non-color it’s gray, so there is no color here and allows this color
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to do its job even better.
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Ryan: Right.
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Antonio: And what’s great about this is you could actually wear a deep blue pair of
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jeans and it would still look great with this.
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Ryan: Well, and the same thing, if I switch it out at the conference I wore this with
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the white dress shirt.
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Antonio: Yeah.
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Ryan: And then, these pants, so now, the only color that kind of stands out is blue.
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Antonio: And normally this is – it’s a bit of a muted color, but it stood out because
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of the color combination of the white with the gray.
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Ryan: Right.
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Antonio: Now, one thing I love is, again, getting back his point, introduce one piece
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at a time.
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I’m looking at just your style in general, but this ring in particular you get comp – he
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gets compliments on this.
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Ryan: Yeah.
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Antonio: And, most men they say, oh, a man should only wear one piece, his wedding ring.
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Well, not really, if you – I mean, you’re not married?
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Ryan: I’m not married.
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Antonio: And this is something that how many times you get compliment on this?
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Ryan: All the time.
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Yeah, from girls and guys.
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Antonio: And it was something that you weren’t used to wearing, but you started the practice,
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you experimented and now, you get compliments.
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Ryan: Yeah.
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Antonio: Your beard, I mean you didn’t always have a beard.
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Ryan: I did not.
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Antonio: So, Ryan wanted to look great, he wanted to show that he was intentionally sending
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a message that he cares about the details without wearing a suit.
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I know so many of you guys, you don’t want to pull off the sports jacket, the pocket
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square, the whole dress shirt thing is not your deal.
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Now, the last thing I want to talk about, Ryan, your boots.
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Ryan: Aah.
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Antonio: This is something that I remember it was one of the first style pieces you added
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to your wardrobe.
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Ryan: Yes.
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Antonio: So, instead of adding one thing.
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Ryan: Yeah.
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Antonio: You choose simply to stop wearing those ugly running shoes and you threw on
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a pair of boots.
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Ryan: Yeah.
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Because some – somebody I know who has a style channel is telling me I need to up my
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style.
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Antonio: Yeah.
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Ryan: Because, you know, it’s multiple years ago and I made my – before I bought the
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boots, I called this guy and asked him like, is Lucchese a good…
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Antonio: I’m like, yes, go check out Lucchese, a great Texas company, but it make amazing
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boots.
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Now, there are many other ones out there.
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But, at the end of the day, don’t be afraid to bring in something regional.
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And this works great for Colorado.
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Ryan: Yes.
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Antonio: Also, functionally, what – this guy loves the country western dance, so he’s
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going to get a lot of miles out of these boots.
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Now, when you wear boots like this into a place, does anyone not compliment I mean you
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probably get tons of compliments walking to the airport.
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Ryan: Yeah.
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Antonio: I mean just anywhere you go.
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Ryan: Yeah.
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Yeah.
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And, you know very often people, yeah, will say I like your boots like…
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Antonio: Yeah.
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Ryan: Those are really nice, where did you get them or what – what, you know, what
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are the pairs do you have.
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It’s a good – it opens conversation.
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Antonio: But I will tell you guys that, again, following these steps, all of a sudden you’re
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able to slowly experiment and start to have fun with your style and get compliments.
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Compliments, why do they matter?
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Because they make – they just make us feel great.
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Ryan: To me it means I’m dressing authentically because it resonates with who I am and so,
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people recognize that.
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When I see other people dressed – when male or female dress well, you know, it’s not
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hitting on things, it’s like, oh, like it’s basically dressing well is good manners.
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So, it’s like someone took the time to – to dress well and dressing well doesn’t mean
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three-piece suit as we talk about many times, but they pay attention to details they’re
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telling their personal story.
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And then, another thing, I will take this off real quick, but to the point of when you
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find something…
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Antonio: You’re going to get to see the boots.
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Ryan: Yeah.
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So, this is – there are one of my – this is a good pair of boots I like, Lucchese’s.
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And, the other thing is this – this – I got it, I got actually different pair that
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are blue, they’re navy blue.
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It’s the exact same thing, it’s navy blue and I, like I really like these boots, so
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I bought the two other colors that they had.
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So, I have this, navy blue, and olive green because I found that the boot fit well.
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Antonio: Yeah.
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Ryan: So, it’s like you got that, now, let’s expand a little bit laterally, right?
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So, that’s how a way that you, you know, when you find something that works it doesn’t
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mean, okay, onto the next thing, sometimes it’s about can I go a little bit deeper
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with this and have a different color or different variation, but the core pieces are still the
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same.
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Antonio: And, that’s the thing about dressing sharp about experimenting with your style
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is hopefully you figure out how to send the message you want to send to the world and
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just control the message.
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Ryan: Yeah.
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Antonio: Don’t – yeah, you just don’t want to be walking through life not thinking
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about…
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Ryan: Yeah.
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It’s about being – being, you know, I love Tanner talks about, you know, being intentional
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and like this is kind of what I wanted you know, and, again, giving yourself permission
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to experiment.
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So, for an area where it’s like I have quote unquote not, you know, I don’t like the
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word fail, but words, oh, this is morning, is this haircut.
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Antonio: Yeah.
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Ryan: Like I like this haircut, however and I asked her to go, you know, so, again, back
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to my tip of it being inspired…
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Antonio: Wait.
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What do you guys think of this haircut?
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I actually thought it wasn’t – wasn’t bad, but…
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Ryan: I mean I don’t think it’s terrible.
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Antonio: We’re going to pull up the picture of the haircut that he had before that he
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really likes and so, go ahead and check out this picture here.
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Now, do you see the difference with what he has here?
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And, you want to point out what the difference is?
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Ryan: Yes.
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So, the main difference is I, you know, again, going back to my tip of inspiration from TV
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or movie characters.
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Obviously, this is an inspiration from the TV show Vikings.
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Antonio: Okay.
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Ryan: You know I love that show, it resonates with me and Ragnar Lodrok has long hair and
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so, I’m thinking about trying that.
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[0:10:02] And so, for this particular cut here I had, she did undercuts on both sides,
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but it – I feel like it goes a little too high and it kind of makes my head look a little
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funky if my hair is not in the exact right point.
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Antonio: Yeah.
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Now, the cool part about this is that he can just simply grow back the hair in a little
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bit of time.
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Ryan: Yeah.
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And it’s okay like it’s not like the end of the world and I’m not like, oh, my God
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it didn’t work.
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It just I got feedback.
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But, for me personally which is the deciding factor is like, yeah, it’s close, but not
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exactly right and just you have to give yourself that compassion and space to test some things
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unless you just want to like look the same and never change anything which is like then
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why are you…
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Antonio: Which your style has evolved quite a bit over time.
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Ryan: Oh, yeah.
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I started with the cave.
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Antonio: Yeah.
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It did start with the cave.
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We’ll link to that video down in the description.
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So, Ryan, thank you very much for sharing all those insights guys.
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Ryan: Thanks for having me.
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Antonio: And, let me know down – ah.
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Guys, let me know down in the comments what you thought of this video, a little bit longer
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than a lot of my other ones, a little bit more informal.
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Ryan: Yeah.
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But hopefully some actionable stuff about, you know, did you, again, it’s about getting
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a little out of your comfort zone.
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Antonio: Yeah.
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Ryan: Trying things that still resonates with you and allowing yourself to get the feedback
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that may not necessarily be positive, but then you use that to invest in your other
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pieces.
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Antonio: All right, guys.
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Take care.
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I’ll see you in the next video.
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Bye.
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Ryan: Take care.
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